Plenty of people go around saying, “If only this would happen, life would be different. I would feel happy and successful.” The problem with this mentality is that most people don’t really mean the “What if’s”. They aren’t really willing to do the things that can bring the necessary changes in their lives to bring them the satisfaction or success they’re looking for.
The truth is that there are time-tested ways that you can begin changing your life. Your life is either getting better, worse, or it’s at a stand-still. This makes no difference whether you’re in recovery or not. If you want to experience more positive things in your life, like happiness, peace, financial success, confidence, etc., a great way to start is to honestly answer the following questions.
What do you really want?
It’s a basic and vague question, for sure. You may think you know what you want out of life, but do you really? Do you really know your passions? Gifts? Talents? Goals? Are you really passionate about these things, so much so that you’re willing to do whatever it takes to get it?
It’s alright to dream things up in your head. Envisioning a great future is important. But if all you ever do is daydream, you may be stuck in “dream mode”. It’s time to up your game. It’s time to take an honest-to-goodness look at your motives, desires, and drive.
Right now, take a few minutes and really answer the question, “What do I really want out of life?” What do you want recovery-wise? What about your career, finances, relationships, emotions, etc.? What do you want your life to look like six months down the road? One year? Five years?
Write the answers down and look at this paper as often as you can. Remind yourself often that you know what kind of life you want and you’re doing whatever it takes to manifest it.
Why are you where you are now in life? Why are you in this situation or spot in life? Some state that our current situations arise from our past thoughts, beliefs, and actions up till this very moment. Do you believe that? Do you think your past has impacted your current situation?
Take some time today to contemplate this question. If you’re not thrilled with where you are, gauge your thought life, beliefs, and actions up till today. Then, change what you can change, so that you can experience a better scenario in the future.
For example, if you’ve struggled with feelings of shame or low self-worth and that landed you in toxic relationships in the past, then begin to work with healing those emotions. As you increase your self-worth and overcome shame, you won’t settle for toxicity in your relationships.
You’ll be able to better see red flags and address them in mature, healthy ways. You’ll also begin attracting healthier people into your life.
A man without a plan will find themselves in a jam. It’s that simple. Do you want lasting change? Then you’ve got to set goals and create an action plan to go after them. You also must act on that action plan. It’s great to write down your goals or create a vision board, but if that’s all you do, nothing will ever change. That’s nothing more than blowing smoke.
Positive thinking is great, but it won’t take you from A to B. So, today, sit down and set your goals. Write them down, and create an action plan to help you make the changes you want in life. Your action plan can be as detailed as you can make it. Once you’ve completed this, consider how you will keep yourself motivated to go after your goals.
Will you read books? Watch videos? Attend support groups? See a counselor?
Figure out what keeps you motivated and commit to feeding yourself this kind of soul food regularly. As you do, you’ll find it much easier to make progress toward your goals.
Whatever you want in life, someone has already been there and done it. It will help you to find those people and ask them for help. Or, consider taking a class, attending a workshop, reading books, going on over to YouTube and watching videos, finding a coach, and so on.
Most people want to help others; that’s just how humans are wired. Today, take some time to think about who can help you make the changes you’re seeking to make.
It might be as simple as joining a support group, Facebook group, or giving someone a call on the phone letting them know you have some questions for them. Don’t underestimate the power of joining up with others who are like-minded or on a similar life path.
Regarding any goals that you may have, ask yourself the question, “Why not me?” Why can’t you create the kind of life you truly desire? If someone else has done it, chances are you can too. It might not look exactly like another’s path, but it’s likely that the tools they used can help you too. Keep this in mind as you continue to create positive changes in your life. Why not?
Making positive changes in your life is commendable. Most people want to keep moving forward in life, become happier, more at peace, and more successful. But don’t get lax when it comes to keeping the right perspective and keeping yourself in check. Remember, nothing changes if nothing changes. In other words, if you want change, do something different. Today, take some time to really think about these questions and get busy creating a life that you really love.