There may be times in your life where you’d really like to kick yourself for saying or doing something, as you regret it deeply. You think about it more often than you’d like. In fact, some people are haunted by regrets so much that it keeps them up at night.
Is it really possible to live your life without regret? Can you really let mistakes and negative situations go? Let’s look at how you can live your life without falling prey to living with regret.
To regret something means that you feel bad about something you either did or didn’t do. You can also regret things that you’ve said or didn’t say to others. Here are some common examples:
There are plenty of things you could regret, but feeling these emotions won’t necessarily help you out. In fact, it could cause you to become sad, anxious, or deeply depressed.
If you let emotional pain continue to rule your life, you’re likely going to experience suffering. There’s a saying that says, “Pain is inevitable, suffering is optional”. This is quite true.
You can learn to move past pain by accepting that certain things have happened and you can’t control them now. That’s all in the past. Embrace the reality that you can give up control in that regard and focus on what you can control right now – your thought life. When you can get a grip on your thoughts, you can eliminate past emotional pain and move on.
Using affirmations is one way to start letting go of regret. You remind yourself of what’s true for you right now.
For example, let’s say you called an old friend a horrible name years ago. You regret it, you’ve apologized for it, but you can’t let yourself off the hook. You still feel horrible about it.
You could say, “Sure, I made a mistake by calling her that name and it was quite mean, but I genuinely apologized. I choose to forgive myself for it right now. I am not the same person as I was back then. I’ve grown in many ways and I no longer do things like that. I let go of regret and I’m moving on.”
You can use affirmations for any area or action that you regret. Maybe you regret not saving money through the years. Don’t let regret eat you alive.
Say, “I was not financially wise through the years, but now I take control over my finances day by day. I forgive myself and make the intent to live each day in appreciation for what I have now. I choose financial responsibility.”
Then, let that regret go.
Begin to live for today and do your best to let go of the past. It’s over and there’s nothing you can do about it except learn from it. You don’t have to let regret ruin your present life. In fact, you can seize the present day in many ways, including:
You don’t have to live a life of regret. Learn from your mistakes and do your best not to repeat them. Life is a journey full of opportunities to learn and grow. When you can focus on present living, you will think less and less about the past. There is nothing you can do to change the past, so resolve today to just let it go.
If you find yourself struggling to let go or make the changes you desire, consider reaching out for help from a coach or therapist. You may simply need some guidance and insight. There are various tools that they can equip you with that will help you live more in the present, rather than getting stuck in the past.